Its Raining Men...MAKE IT STOP!

J, is a guy I work with. He expressed an interest in me over the past year, consistantly and I have turned him down. When Casey and I ended this last time he said he wanted me to consider him as he cared about me and didn't want the chance to pass him by. I told him then, no. He was a friend but I am not interested in anything more...ever. He is creepy to me. I like him with boundaries as a friend but he has been pushy for a year even while I had a boyfriend. He doesn't stop talking/lecturing long enough to know me well enough to care for me in my opinion. I am not interested. But I work with him and I think he's generally a nice guy...maybe. But he made my life hell for a while because he constantly tells others we work with how in love with me he is and he'll always ask me to do things "just friends" and then hug me and smell my hair and ...just be overly close and touchy feely. He pets my leg even when I move away from him and he will wait outside the dressing room until I leave and walk out to my bike with me even when I say "J and I am going home. Goodbye. No, you don't have to walk with me, I'm fine" Sometimes, lately I will say "bye" and run...run away.
Last night he asked me out to coffee "for a few minutes" so I said okay and met him at Starbucks. He proceeded to tell me how it hurt him that he has put so much effort into me and I won't even
give him a chance but will go out with other people. He explained
that he has been putting time resources and energy into me since at
least July. He said everything he has done over the past year has been
with me in my mind from pushing to be the acrobatic lead at Pirates (am I supposed to apologize for his elevation at work?) to putting together our act (our acrobatic act for WORK). I
said "Jason, I assumed that time was as a friend since I was IN A
RELATIONSHIP" he said yeah but everyone but me knew it was going down.
Classy. Side note, I met him three years ago and he didn't give me the time of day as he was busy trying to woo some girl in my cast at the time. And since then I don't see him as genuine.
He said it was hard for him to be happy at work because I
won't even try to be with him and he cares about me so much. It affects his job. I said
I'm sorry I can't give you what you want. He advised me he doesn't
ever want to look back and think he didn't try something and he
wouldn't want me to feel regret. I don't. Not at all. I told him his
pressure pushes me away and I can't feel comfortable when he is so...
pushy. He teared up and I said" I should go". He said things are going
to change. Thank GOD is all I could think. Then he posted a blog on myspace about the experience and ended it with this:

"All we can do is try to learn from the experience and pray that we don't make the same mistake again… and neither do they. It's really sad to see people; friends, people you care about, whatever; go back to the same bad people for them and fall into the same trap when you know and they know that they deserve better. But at the same time I will always strive for something more, push for what I want, and never give up…"

I hope he gets exactly what he wants in life as long as he STOPS TOUCHING ME! Pushy bastard.